Welcome to 2021! I for one couldn't be more excited for this new year. Not because 2020, was horrible or a dumpster fire. In fact, 2020, was incredibly transformative for me and I am thrilled to step into this new year with an openness to transform further.
The New Year, New You mindset was something I saw first hand during my personal trainer days. Clients would file into the gym doe eye'd, wearing shiny fitness trackers, brand new sneakers, and rattling off fitness resolutions. I'd applaud their decision for making into the gym, stating their intentions, yet knew the outcome already. It was as if I had a magic 8 ball, their future was clear. Within 3-weeks about 20 - 30% of the new members would start to skip classes, the Monday following Superbowl Sunday would reduce class size once again, and by Memorial Day Weekend the resolutions were out the window.
How or why does this happen if we are so committed out of the gate? Why is the failure rate so high?
Making lifelong changes requires one to break-up a series of lifelong habits. I've been here more times than I can count, declaring this time is different.
Breaking up with our old habits requires us to take a radical step of responsibility of recognizing what no longer serves us. Friends, you will quickly learn that this is uncomfortable, scary, and requires serious soul searching. Something that most aren't willing to do.
We keep ourselves in our comfort zones for 3 reasons:
1) Fear of Failure
2) Fear of Success
3) Fear of Being Out Cast From Our Community or Tribe
Personally, I feel No. 3 is the honest answer and reason yet, you'll try to identify with No 1 or 2. For me, I'll be honest, No. 3 is hard for me because my relationships changed when I put more time and energy into my health and wellness, I lost friends and clients, skipped family functions, and had to defend my reason for eating a certain way more times than I could count. I also, "wanted accountability" buddies (which will be a topic for another day) again, to feel a sense of community.
As we navigate the "New Year, New You", I'd like you to rewrite your resolutions, goals, or intentions this year that actually mean something to you. Not the goals you felt you needed to create to impress someone else, fill the page, or make to your vision board "pretty". Instead, focus on 1 to 3 goals that will move you closer to where you'd like to be at the end of 2021 - not the end of this week or month. If that means starting by drinking more water than soda, eating an extra helping of veggies, or saying NO to people, places, or things that bring your vibe down.